chide....She knew her own instinct was to chide and punish, to feel out of control when her children act out, so she curbed that.

censure severely or angrily

Synonyms:

bawl out, berate, call down, call on the carpet, chew out, chew up, chide, dress down, have words, lambast,lambaste, lecture, rag, rebuke, remonstrate,reprimand, reproof, scold, take to task, trounce,vituperate

Types:

castigate, chasten, chastise, correct, objurgate

censure severely

brush down, tell off

reprimand

flame

criticize harshly, usually via an electronic medium

Type of:

criticise, criticize, knock, pick apart

find fault with; express criticism of; point out real or perceived flaws